Have you ever received a message like, “I had a great time with you” and found yourself unsure how to reply?
It might sound like a simple compliment, but let’s be honest—it can stir up a whole lot of feelings. Whether you’re smiling at your screen or staring blankly, trying to decode what it really means, you’re not alone.
As someone who’s spent years writing about everyday communication and social nuance, I’ve seen how the smallest phrase can build—or break—connection. So, when someone says they had a great time, how do you acknowledge it without sounding robotic or indifferent?
Let’s unpack that together.
Why Your Reply Deserves More Thought
The phrase “I had a great time with you” isn’t just pleasantry. It can be:
- A genuine thank-you
- An attempt to deepen a connection
- A subtle invitation for future plans
And how you respond can make a difference—whether you’re hoping to grow something romantic, cement a new friendship, or maintain professionalism.
The Social Dynamics Behind It
Research from communication experts suggests that mutual validation—when one person expresses enjoyment and the other reflects it back—reinforces social bonds. A thoughtful reply, even if brief, signals that you’re attentive and emotionally aware.
Read the Room: Context Is Everything
Before you even type out a reply, pause and think:
- Who said it?
- What kind of interaction did you have?
- Do you want to see them again?
From my own experience: After a casual coffee meetup with someone I wasn’t sure about, I defaulted to a vague “Same here, thanks!” It felt safe. But a week later, I realised it gave no real feedback and left things ambiguous. If I could go back, I’d be clearer—kind, but honest.
Different Ways to Respond, Depending on the Situation
If You Genuinely Had a Great Time
A sincere, slightly personalised message works best.
Try this:
“I had a really nice time too—chatting with you about your cycling adventures was a highlight. Would be great to do this again.”
This approach:
- Feels warm and specific
- Mentions a shared moment
- Signals interest in staying connected
If You’re Still Unsure About How You Feel
You want to keep the tone kind without overcommitting.
Example:
“Thanks for today—it was good getting to know you. I’ve been thinking about that story you shared about your childhood holidays.”
This leaves the door open without suggesting definite plans.
If You Didn’t Quite Click
Kindness and clarity go a long way.
Example:
“Thank you for meeting up. It was nice to chat and hear your thoughts on [insert topic]. Wishing you well with everything.”
It’s polite, firm, and doesn’t mislead.
What About Work or Networking Contexts?
The phrase might pop up in professional conversations too. It’s a bit different there—you want to acknowledge the positive tone while keeping things polished.
Replying to a Colleague or Collaborator
“Likewise! It was good to catch up outside of the usual work stuff—let’s keep the ideas flowing.”
Replying to a New Contact or Client
“I enjoyed our conversation too. I appreciated hearing your perspective—let’s touch base soon.”
Use the Magic Ingredient: Specificity
According to Dr. Marian Ellis, a UK-based relationship coach, vague replies often stall budding connections. She notes:
“Saying exactly what you enjoyed or appreciated builds familiarity and encourages openness.”
You might mention:
- A story they told
- Something they taught you
- How they made you feel
One of my favourite replies I’ve ever sent: “I had a brilliant time too—and honestly, I haven’t laughed that much about silly childhood games in years. You’ve got a great way of telling stories.”
See the difference?
Reader Responses That Stood Out
I asked readers of Answer the Folks for their real-life replies. Here are a few that felt genuine:
“So did I—your story about getting lost in Rome still has me chuckling.” – Ella, Liverpool
“I did too. I’ve rarely felt that relaxed meeting someone new—thank you.” – Jordan, Leeds
“Same here, but next time I’m picking the dessert. You’ve been warned.” – Rina, Birmingham
Each one adds something unique—whether it’s humour, warmth, or a callback.
Common Mistakes to Avoid
- Too vague: “You too” or “Same here” feels like a shrug.
- Too over-the-top: If you’re unsure, don’t gush.
- Too slow: A delayed reply can unintentionally signal disinterest.
- Too confusing: Don’t hint at another meeting if you don’t mean it.
FAQs
Q: Do I always need to respond? Yes—if someone took the time to express warmth, a simple and sincere reply is respectful.
Q: Can I use humour? Absolutely—as long as it matches the vibe of your interaction.
Q: What if I want to see them again? Say so! A clear but casual suggestion works wonders.
Q: What if I don’t? Be polite, but avoid leading them on. You can express appreciation without implying future plans.
Final Takeaways
A reply to “I had a great time with you” doesn’t need to be elaborate—but it should be thoughtful. Whether you’re encouraging more connection or gently drawing the line, your words carry meaning.
Use specificity to show attentiveness, sincerity to build trust, and kindness no matter the context.
You don’t have to be a poet—just be honest, and speak as you would to someone you respect.
Have you ever received this message and not known what to say?
Share your best or most awkward reply in the comments—I’d love to hear how it went.
And if you want more natural, human-sounding response ideas, don’t miss How to Respond to WSG.
